Useful Articles and Links
Below please find some articles and links you might find helpful.
TED Talk: Helen Fisher: The Brain in Love
Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love -- and people who had just been dumped.
The Most Common Relationship Problems and How Talk Can Help
Relationships can be wonderful—and challenging. We all feel uncertainty or dissatisfaction in our relationships from time to time. Some of the toughest conversations we have are with those we love the most.
TEDTalk: Laura Trice: Remember to say thank you
In this deceptively simple 3-minute talk, Dr. Laura Trice muses on the power of the magic words "thank you" — to deepen a friendship, to repair a bond, to make sure another person knows what they mean to you. Try it.
5 Words You Need to Remember to Make Your Relationship Last
A great relationship doesn’t just happen overnight. They are cultivated over many years and through hardships. They are born out of mutual respect and admiration. People with great relationships have them because each person in the relationship puts their partner’s well-being and happiness above their own. They take the time to learn each other’s needs and wants. They understand that they may give and receive love differently than each other. They respect boundaries that their partner sets out for them. They live their lives together by doing things together and spending time together. They laugh together and at each other. There are five things, five words that encapsulate what it means to have a great relationship with your partner.
Recommended Books
The Way to Love: Meditations for Life
The Way to Love contains some of the most beloved stories from Anthony de Mello.
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships (Penguin Life)
The bestselling Games People Play is the book that has helped millions of people understand the dynamics of relationships, by psychiatrist Eric Berne
Bad Boyfriends: Using Attachment Theory to Avoid Mr. (or Ms.) Wrong and Make You a Better Partner
This book is a practical guide to using the science of attachment and relationships to find the right life partner by Jeb Kinnison
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love Rachel Heller and Amir Levine
How our attachment styles learned in childhoold affect our relationships.
Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers - Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Mate, M.D., to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time: Children today looking to their peers for direction their values, identity, and codes of behavior.
The Life Changing Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Sarah Knight
This irreverent and practical book explains how to rid yourself of unwanted obligations, shame, and guilt - and give your f**ks instead to people and things that make you happy.
Poems and Quotes to Inspire You
The Place Where We Are Right - Yehuda Amichai
From the place where we are right
Flowers will never grow
In the spring.
The place where we are right
Is hard and trampled
Like a yard.
But doubts and loves
Dig up the world
Like a mole, a plough.
And a whisper will be heard in the place
Where the ruined
House once stood.
Love is Patient - The Bible: 1 Corinthians 13:4
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
But rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
Always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.