Anger Management
Anger management is the process of learning to recognise when you’re becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way rather than trying to stop the anger or keep it inside you.
Anger is a completely normal emotional response to an uncomfortable, difficult or threatening situation and often, once we have had time to calm down, we move on from it. However when a consistent level of frustration and anger leads to damaging situations or hurting other people it is time to seek help.
Anger can come in many forms - triggered by internal or external situations, events or people. However, feeling angry and showing it when it is disproportionate to the trigger may have a detrimental effect on you and/or the people around you. Sadly, the efforts we make to contain and control ourselves can often end up fuelling unacceptable outbursts when we are simply no longer able to help keep ourselves under control. The dam bursts! Unfortunately, often, we can end up hurting those we love - “kick the cat” syndrome.
It is important to know the difference between having a bad temper and having issues with controlling your anger. Temper is when you act out in a rage; it is when we allow our actions to be controlled by our feelings of anger. Therefore anger is the emotion and temper is the expression of it.
Anger issues can be a symptom of other psychological or emotional issues or simply a sign that you are struggling with other areas of your life. Speaking to a therapist or counsellor will help you identify any underlying causes that might be compounding these feelings.
At The Practice, we offer a wide range of help and support for issues surrounding anger management, including; anger management counselling and anger management therapy. Please get in touch with us if you require help or would like any additional information.
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Useful Articles
Here's a list of articles about anger management you might find helpful.
How to Control Your Anger
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. However, it can be a problem if you find it difficult to keep it under control. NHS Article
Why parents are getting angrier
Mike Fisher shows parents how to deal with their rage. He’s busier than ever – partly because children would rather be on social media or gaming
Anger Management: Expressing anger when required
The main problem arises when one fails to manoeuvre anger in a positive direction and lets it take control over one’s better senses. Anger can range from mere irritation to intense fury and rage. The instant natural reaction to anger is to respond aggressively. However, we cannot physically or verbally lash out at every person or object which infuriates us. This is where anger management comes into play.
What to expect at anger management therapy
Anger management therapy can be run as group or one-to-one sessions. A professional will often say that recognising that you have a problem and seeking help is a very positive first step towards solving the anger issues.
Anger: Self management techniques
It is important to recognise when you feel angry or experience feelings that may lead to anger. You should not try to suppress your anger but instead try to understand it and act in a positive way to alleviate negative aspects of your anger.
Recommended Reading
The Life Changing Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Sarah Knight
This irreverent and practical book explains how to rid yourself of unwanted obligations, shame, and guilt - and give your f**ks instead to people and things that make you happy.
Powerful Quotes and Poems to inspire you
Dare we hope? We dare.
Can we hope? We can.
Should we hope? We must, because to do otherwise is to waste the most precious of gifts given so freely by God to all of us. So when we do die, it will be with hope and it will be easy and our hearts will not be broken.
Andy Ripley – England and Lions rugby legend, often described as one of the most colourful personalities in the history of English rugby
Charities and support groups
Charities and support groups
Below you will find a comprehensive list of charities and support groups that offer help and assistance to anyone who is struggling with this mental health issue
Have I got a Problem?
HaveiGotAproblem.com is a free online resource to help you understand issues or concerns you may have about mental health or addiction issues.
This site was created to give the public information to help them understand mental health and addiction issues and to assist people in making better informed decisions about their life and personal choices.
http://www.haveigotaproblem.com/
The Calm Zone
THE CAMPAIGN AGAINST LIVING MISERABLY, or CALM, is a registered charity, which exists to prevent male suicide in the UK.
We seek to prevent male suicide by:-
· Offering support to men in the UK, of any age, who are down or in crisis via our helpline and website.
· Challenging a culture that prevents men seeking help when they need it, see www.yearofthemale.com
· Pushing for changes in policy and practice so that suicide is better prevented via partnerships such as The Alliance of Suicide Prevention Charities (TASC), the National Suicide Prevention Alliance (NSPA) . CALM also hosts the Suicide Bereavement Support Partnership (SBSP), which includes Cruse, If U Care Share, Papyrus, SoBS and the Samaritans amongst others. This partnership aims to ensure that everyone bereaved or affected by suicide is offered and receives timely and appropriate support. Its members are working collaboratively to ensure this vision becomes a reality.
www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/anger/
Helpline: Nationwide: 0800 58 58 58; London: 0808 802 58 58 (365 days 5 pm – midnight)
The Source
The Source exists to make contact with and develop young people aged between 11 and 25 years old, living in Rushmoor, Hart and Surrey. We aim to build relationships with and create opportunities for any young person, and we are able to focus on those who are struggling at school, in trouble with the law, struggling with family relationships, living on their own, homeless or isolated from mainstream society.
http://www.thesourceforyou.co.uk/anger/
SANE
SANE services provide practical help, emotional support and specialist information to individuals affected by mental health problems, their family, friends and carers.
http://www.sane.org.uk/
Helpline 0845 767 8000
Salvation Army
The Salvation Army works closely with addiction referral services as well as providing specialist detox centres in the UK. This is complemented by rehabilitation and support programmes.
http://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/addiction-support
Get Connected
Get Connected is the UK's free, confidential helpline service for young people under 25 who need help, but don't know where to turn.
Helpline: 0808 808 4994
Open from 11am - 11pm every day
http://www.getconnected.org.uk/
Counselling Directory
Counselling Directory aims to be the leading service for providing counselling advice and information - connecting those in distress with the largest support network in the UK.
http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/
Barnardos
Barnardo’s believes in children regardless of their circumstances, gender, race, disability or behaviour. Our purpose as a charity today is to transform the lives of the UK’s most vulnerable children. We believe in the abused, the most vulnerable, the forgotten and the neglected. We will support them, stand up for them and bring out the best in each and every child.
www.barnardos.org.uk
The Mix
The Mix is the UK’s leading support service for young people. We are here to help you take on any challenge you’re facing - from mental health to money, from homelessness to finding a job, from break-ups to drugs. Talk to us via online, social or our free, confidential helpline.
http://www.themix.org.uk/
Freephone 0808 808 4994
BACP
The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy is the professional association for members of the counselling professions in the UK.
https://www.bacp.co.uk
Childline
The UK’s free and confidential helpline is not just for children, it provides help for young people of all ages who are in distress or danger. Counsellors provide advice and support, by phone and online, 24 hours a day.
You can get help and advice about a wide range of issues, including violence and abuse in your relationship on the Childline website. You can also talk to a counsellor online, send an email or post on the message boards.
Whatever your worry, it’s better out than in.
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Helpline: 0800 1111
www.childline.org.uk
Mind - For Better Mental Health
We provide advice and support to empower anyone experiencing a mental health problem. We campaign to improve services, raise awareness and promote understanding. We won't give up until everyone experiencing a mental health problem gets support and respect.
http://www.mind.org.uk
Young Minds
Charity committed to improving the emotional wellbeing and mental health of children and young people.
www.youngminds.org.uk
Parents Helpline 0808 802 5544 Monday - Friday 9.30am - 4pm
British Association of Anger Management (BAAM)
We are the only UK centre of expertise for all aspects of anger and conflict management. We offer support, programmes and training for the general public, children and teenagers, government bodies, corporations, educational sector, personnel / H.R management, trainers, counsellors and anyone dealing with their own or another's anger.
From individual support, workshops, seminars, bespoke packages through to training and career development with certification and associate membership - we offer something for everyone experiencing anger directly or indirectly.
http://www.angermanage.co.uk/
Support Line
SupportLine provides a confidential telephone helpline offering emotional support to any individual on any issue. The Helpline is primarily a preventative service and aims to support people before they reach the point of crisis. It is particularly aimed at those who are socially isolated, vulnerable, at risk groups and victims of any form of abuse. SupportLine is a member of the Helplines Association. SupportLine also provides support by email and post.
http://www.supportline.org.uk
Helpline: 01708 765 200
Student Minds
Student Minds is the UK's student mental health charity. We believe that peer support can change the state of student mental health. Our vision is for students to take action to foster an environment where everyone has the confidence to talk and listen to each other, the skills to support one another and the knowledge to look after their own mental health.
Helpline: 08444 775 774 Mon-Fri 9:30am - 5.30pm (calls subject to charge)
http://www.studentminds.org.uk/anxiety-disorders.html
Elefriends (run by Mind)
Elefriends is a supportive online community where you can be yourself.
We all know what it's like to struggle sometimes, and this is a safe place to listen, share and be heard. Whether you're feeling good right now, or really low, it's a safe place to share experiences and listen to others.
Shared experiences and perspectives are valuable and powerful. In this way Elefriends don't just get help, they give help too. In the good times and the bad.
www.elefriends.org.uk
Off The Record
We believe that young people need places to go which are easy to access, where you are treated with respect, and where you can get support and information to help you make your own life choices. Our services are friendly and welcoming – about 1,000 new young people visit us every year. Available in the Richmond borough.
http://otrtwickenham.com/
Time to Change
Our aim is to start a conversation… or hopefully thousands of conversations.
We want to empower people with mental health problems to feel confident talking about the issue without facing discrimination. And we want the three quarters of the population who know someone with a mental health problem to talk about it too.
http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/
Family Lives
Offers support to anyone parenting or helping to raise children, from newborn babies to young adults. There are free telephone and email helplines, parenting courses and information leaflets. The website offers lots of advice, real-life stories and relevant news as well as a helpful A-Z of related topics.
http://www.familylives.org.uk/
Helpline: 0800 800 2222 (9am – 9pm, Monday to Friday;10am – 3pm Saturday and Sunday)