Abuse

Abuse

Abuse, whether current or historical, can be deeply distressing for the person who has experienced it. Abuse can come in many forms such as: child abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and domestic abuse.

Abuse can leave us feeling bewildered or ashamed. Often feelings of personal responsibility or guilt are associated with this deeply distressing issue. It is important to remember that abuse is not always visible and can be difficult to come to terms with. Understanding the impact that being abuse has can be very difficult to do alone. However it is important to note that some may manage to reconcile their about alone while others need the help of their GP or a trained counsellor.

If you are suffering from any form of abuse please contact your GP immediately and consider contacting a counsellor.

What to do right now:

If you are, or feel you are, in danger contact the police immediately by dialling ‘999’. If you have a non-medical, non-emergency issue, or you need any sort of help or advice, call the national non-emergency helpline by dialling ‘101’. 

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Useful Articles

Here's a list of articles about abuse you might find helpful.

What Abuse Survivors Don't Know: Ten Life-Changing truths to Embrace on the Healing Journey  
The journey to healing from emotional and/or physical abuse requires us to revolutionize our thinking about relationships, self-love, self-respect and self-compassion. Abusive relationships often serve as the catalyst for incredible change and have the potential to motivate us towards empowerment and strength.

Five signs you are being emotionally abused
The journey to discovering that you are suffering from abuse can be a long and confusing one, coming to terms with the fact someone is causing you harm is never easy. It isn't always easy to recognise when you are being abused and this article walks you through the most common signs.

#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou was a hashtag started on Twitter to raise awareness that emotional/mental abuse is just as important as physical abuse. This article shows tweets about the kind of behaviour classed as emotional abuse.

What to do if you suspect child abuse
Suspecting child abuse can be scary and challenging when you don't know what your first steps should be.This articlewill help with how to initially react if you suspect a child you know is being mistreated.

Recognising Abuse
There are many different ways in which someone could be being abused:physically, emotionally, sexually,financially. Some people may be unaware or in denial about the fact they are being abused.

Gender and domestic abuse
There are many misconceptions and assumptions about the relationships between abuse and gender, thisarticle givesresearch and statistics on the relationship between gender and abuse.

TED Talk: Jimmy Carter: Why I believe the mistreatment of women is the number one human rights abuse
With his signature resolve, former US President Jimmy Carter dives into three unexpected reasons why the mistreatment of women and girls continues in so many manifestations in so many parts of the world, both developed and developing. The final reason he gives? “In general, men don’t give a damn.”

Recommended Reading

Powerful Quotes and Poems to inspire you

Dare we hope? We dare.
Can we hope? We can.
Should we hope? We must, because to do otherwise is to waste the most precious of gifts given so freely by God to all of us. So when we do die, it will be with hope and it will be easy and our hearts will not be broken.

Andy Ripley – England and Lions rugby legend, often described as one of the most colourful personalities in the history of English rugby

 

Charities and support groups

Charities and support groups

Below you will find a comprehensive list of charities and support groups that offer help and assistance to anyone who is struggling with this mental health issue

Barnardos

Barnardo’s believes in children regardless of their circumstances, gender, race, disability or behaviour. Our purpose as a charity today is to transform the lives of the UK’s most vulnerable children. We believe in the abused, the most vulnerable, the forgotten and the neglected. We will support them, stand up for them and bring out the best in each and every child.

www.barnardos.org.uk

NSPCC

Children’s charity dedicated to ending child abuse and child cruelty.

0800 1111 Childline for Children (24 hour)
0808 800 5000 for adults concerned about a child (24 hour)
www.nspcc.org.uk

Survivors Trust

The Survivors Trust (TST) is a UK-wide national umbrella agency for 141 specialist organisations for support for the impact of rape, sexual violence and childhood sexual abuse throughout the UK and Ireland. Our core aim is to empower survivors or rape, sexual violence or childhood sexual abuse through supporting and improving effective responses to survivors. Member organisations provide a range of direct services to survivors including counselling, support, helplines and advocacy services for women, men and children.

www.thesurvivorstrust.org

Broken Rainbow

Broken Rainbow offers support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people experiencing domestic violence. It also aims to raise awareness in the LGBT community and elsewhere of the impact of homophobic, transphobic and same sex domestic violence on the lives of LGBT people.

Broken Rainbow runs a Helpline staffed by highly trained operators, experienced in the specifics of LGBT domestic violence, with many coming from front line services.  They understand the issues you’ll face and go through extensive training to provide you with the best possible support.  

Helpline: 0300 999 5428 (Monday & Thursday 10am – 8pm, Tuesday & Wednesday 10am – 5pm.
www.brokenrainbow.org.uk
help@brokenrainbow.org.uk

National Association for People Abused in Childhood

Provides a range of services which offer direct support to survivors; Ensures that survivors know where they can go for help; Spreads best practice in the support of survivors among those who they may approach for help; Works with others to increase the provision and effectiveness of support for survivors; Stands up for survivors and representing their interests among those who are in a position to help improve their lives.

http://napac.org.uk/
Helpline: 0808 801 0331

Rape Crisis

Rape Crisis Centres offer a range of services for women and girls who have been raped or experienced another form of sexual violence.  Rape Crisis Centres are not just for women in ‘crisis’ - many women contact them years after they have been raped or sexually abused.  You can contact the National Sexual Violence Helpline for help and advice and can find contact details for your nearest Rape Crisis Centre on Rape Crisis’ website.

Helpline: 0808 802 9999 (Daily, 12pm – 2:30pm, and 7pm – 9:30pm)
Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (Daily, open 24 hours a day)
www.rapecrisis.org.uk

The Men’s Advice Line

A helpline for male victims of domestic violence, age not important.

Helpline: 0808 801 0327 (Free from landlines and most mobiles)
www.mensadviceline.org.uk
info@mensadviceline.org.uk

Female Genital Mutilation

Female genital mutilation (FGM) is child abuse and is illegal in the UK.

FGM is any procedure that’s designed to alter or injure a girl’s (or woman’s) genital organs for non-medical reasons. It’s sometimes known as ‘female circumcision’ or ‘female genital cutting’. It’s mostly carried out on young girls.

You should contact the police on 999 if you think that a girl or young woman is in immediate danger of FGM.

You can also contact the Foreign and Commonwealth Office if she’s already been taken abroad to have FGM.

Foreign and Commonwealth Office
Telephone: 020 7008 1500
From overseas: +44 (0)20 7008 1500

If you are worried about a child or would like support or advice in relation to FGM please contact the NSPCC anonymously on their dedicated FGM helpline: 0800 028 3550 or email them at fgmhelp@nspcc.org.uk

The Hideout

The Hideout is a dedicated website for young people up to the age of 21 where they can find information about relationship abuse and where to get help. There is also a moderated messageboard where young people can post about what's going on in their relationships and get direct information and support.

www.thehideout.org.uk

Respect Not Fear

The Respect not Fear site was developed by the Nottinghamshire domestic violence forum, in consultation with young people.

The site contains games and advice which can help you think about your relationships, or you can make a pledge to find out what you can expect in a relationship and what shouldn’t be tolerated.

The Respect not Fear App is free and provides you with games such as the pyramid and respect'o'meter, it also gives you instant access to important information and support services.

www.respectnotfear.co.uk

The Havens

The Havens are specialist centres in London for people who have been raped or sexually assaulted. The havens help everyone, men and women, young people and children of all ages. They can help you deal with and recover from the emotional and physical effects following an assault.

The Havens are based in Camberwell, Paddington and Whitechapel. To make an appointment phone:
Camberwell: 020 3299 1599 
Paddington: 020 3312 1101 
Whitechapel: 020 7247 4787 

www.thehavens.co.uk

 

Mind - For Better Mental Health

We provide advice and support to empower anyone experiencing a mental health problem. We campaign to improve services, raise awareness and promote understanding.  We won't give up until everyone experiencing a mental health problem gets support and respect.

http://www.mind.org.uk

Mental Health Foundation

Provides information and support for anyone with mental health problems or learning disabilities.

http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/

Student Minds

Student Minds is the UK's student mental health charity. We believe that peer support can change the state of student mental health. Our vision is for students to take action to foster an environment where everyone has the confidence to talk and listen to each other, the skills to support one another and the knowledge to look after their own mental health.

Helpline: 08444 775 774 Mon-Fri 9:30am - 5.30pm (calls subject to charge)
http://www.studentminds.org.uk/anxiety-disorders.html

Samaritans

The Samaritans provide 24 hour, confidential, emotional support for anyone in crisis.

http://www.samaritans.org/
Helpline 116 123, this number is FREE to call
Email jo@samaritans.org

Elefriends (run by Mind)

Elefriends is a supportive online community where you can be yourself. 

We all know what it's like to struggle sometimes, and this is a safe place to listen, share and be heard. Whether you're feeling good right now, or really low, it's a safe place to share experiences and listen to others. 

Shared experiences and perspectives are valuable and powerful. In this way Elefriends don't just get help, they give help too. In the good times and the bad.

www.elefriends.org.uk

Off The Record

We believe that young people need places to go which are easy to access, where you are treated with respect, and where you can get support and information to help you make your own life choices. Our services are friendly and welcoming – about 1,000 new young people visit us every year. Available in the Richmond borough.

http://otrtwickenham.com/

Papyrus UK

Suicide prevention for young people up to the age of 35

https://www.papyrus-uk.org/
Helpline: 0800 068 41 41
Monday - Friday 10am – 5pm & 7pm – 10pm, Weekends 2pm – 5pm 

Text: 07786 209697
Email: pat@papyrus-uk.org

 

Have I got a Problem?

HaveiGotAproblem.com is a free online resource to help you understand issues or concerns you may have about mental health or addiction issues.

This site was created to give the public information to help them understand mental health and addiction issues and to assist people in making better informed decisions about their life and personal choices.

 

http://www.haveigotaproblem.com/

 

Victims Support

Victim Support is the independent charity for victims of crime in England and Wales.

www.victimsupport.org.uk

Refuge

Advice on dealing with domestic abuse.

0808 2000 247
www.refuge.org.uk

First Person Plural

First Person Plural is a small UK-wide membership charity led by volunteers who have lived-experience of dissociative identity disorder (previously known as ‘multiple personality disorder’) or other childhood-trauma-related complex dissociative condition with a similar presentation.

www.firstpersonplural.org.uk

Help for Adult Victims Of Child Abuse

We provide support friendship and advice for adults who have been affected by childhood abuse.

http://www.havoca.org/

The Lucy Faithfull Foundation

The Lucy Faithfull Foundations (LFF) is the only UK-wide child protection charity dedicated solely to reducing the risk of children being sexually abused.  We work with families that have been affected by sexual abuse including: adult male and female sexual abusers; young people with inappropriate sexual behaviours; victims of abuse and other family members.

http://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/

Childline

The UK’s free and confidential helpline is not just for children, it provides help for young people of all ages who are in distress or danger.  Counsellors provide advice and support, by phone and online, 24 hours a day. 

You can get help and advice about a wide range of issues, including violence and abuse in your relationship on the Childline website.  You can also talk to a counsellor online, send an email or post on the message boards.

Whatever your worry, it’s better out than in.

ChildLine has launched an app called Zipit. It helps you get flirty chat back on the right track. It's packed with killer comebacks and top tips to help you stay in control of your chat game. Find out more: childline.org.uk/zipit

Helpline: 0800 1111
www.childline.org.uk

Women’s Aid

Women's Aid is the key national domestic violence charity that co-ordinates and supports an England-wide network of over 340 local domestic and sexual violence organisations running over 900 refuge, advocacy and outreach services. Women's Aid campaigns for effective legal protection and services and works to prevent abuse through public awareness, education and training. It also provides vital 24 hour lifeline services through the 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline (in partnership with Refuge) and a survivors' messageboard on their website.

Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (Daily, open 24 hours a day)
www.womensaid.org.uk

Respect

Respect runs support services and programs for men and women who inflict violence in their relationships. They also provide an advice line for men who are victims of domestic violence.

Helpline: 0808 802 4040 (Monday-Friday 9am – 5pm
www.respectphoneline.org.uk
info@respectphoneline.org.uk

Forced Marriage Unit

You have the right to choose who you marry, when you marry or if you marry at all. Forced marriage is when you face physical pressure to marry (eg threats, physical violence or sexual violence) or emotional and psychological pressure (eg if you’re made to feel like you’re bringing shame on your family). Financial pressure can also be a factor. 

Forced marriage is illegal in England, Scotland and Wales.

Contact the Forced Marriage Unit (FMU) if you’re trying to stop a forced marriage or you need help leaving a marriage you’ve been forced into.

fmu@fco.gov.uk

Telephone: 020 7008 0151
From overseas: +44 (0)20 7008 0151
Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm 
Out of hours: 020 7008 1500 (ask for the Global Response Centre) 

Call 999 in an emergency.

From overseas: +44 (0)20 7008 1500 

IKWRO

IKWRO helps Middle Eastern women and girls (Iranian, Kurdish, Arab, Afghan and Turkish) who are living in the UK and provide confidential advice on issues including domestic violence, “honour” based violence, forced marriage, female genital mutilation, separation and divorce, child custody, housing and benefits. They speak Farsi, Arabic, Kurdish, Dari, Turkish and English.

We can speak with you on the telephone, see you at our London office or meet you at another place which is safe and convenient for you.  All our services are completely confidential.

Helpline: 07846 275 246 (Arabic/ Kurdish) or 0207 920 6460 (Farsi/ Dari/ Turkish)  (Mon to Fri 9.30-5.30)
07846 310157 (24 hours out-of-hours emergencies - Farsi/Dari/Turkish) 
ikwro.org.uk/need-help-now/

Southall Black Sisters

Southall Black Sisters provides information, advice, advocacy, practical help, counselling and support to Asian, African-Caribbean and other minority women and children experiencing domestic and sexual violence (including forced marriage, dowry abuse and honour crimes) in English, Hindi, Punjabi, Gujarati and Urdu (language line is used to interpret other languages).

Helpline: 0208 571 0800 (Monday – Friday 9am – 5pm) 
General enquiries: 0208 571 9595 (Monday – Friday 9am – 5pm Closed from12.30pm to 1.30pm for lunch)
www.southallblacksisters.org.uk/

This is Abuse

Abuse is not normal and never ok. If you are in a relationship with someone, you should feel loved, safe, respected and free to be yourself. There are different forms of abuse, which you can find out about on this website, but if your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship.

http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/

 

Young Minds

Charity committed to improving the emotional wellbeing and mental health of children and young people.

www.youngminds.org.uk
Parents Helpline 0808 802 5544 Monday - Friday 9.30am - 4pm

Support Line

SupportLine provides a confidential telephone helpline offering emotional support to any individual on any issue. The Helpline is primarily a preventative service and aims to support people before they reach the point of crisis. It is particularly aimed at those who are socially isolated, vulnerable, at risk groups and victims of any form of abuse. SupportLine is a member of the Helplines Association. SupportLine also provides support by email and post.

http://www.supportline.org.uk
Helpline: 01708 765 200

Salvation Army

The Salvation Army works closely with addiction referral services as well as providing specialist detox centres in the UK. This is complemented by rehabilitation and support programmes.

http://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/addiction-support

Get Connected

Get Connected is the UK's free, confidential helpline service for young people under 25 who need help, but don't know where to turn.

Helpline: 0808 808 4994
Open from 11am - 11pm every day
http://www.getconnected.org.uk/

Counselling Directory

Counselling Directory aims to be the leading service for providing counselling advice and information - connecting those in distress with the largest support network in the UK.

http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

The Site

TheSite.org is the first place young people should check for advice, information and support on sex, relationships, drugs, drink, health and wellbeing.

http://www.thesite.org/

Time to Change

Our aim is to start a conversation… or hopefully thousands of conversations.

We want to empower people with mental health problems to feel confident talking about the issue without facing discrimination. And we want the three quarters of the population who know someone with a mental health problem to talk about it too.

http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/

Family Lives

Offers support to anyone parenting or helping to raise children, from newborn babies to young adults. There are free telephone and email helplines, parenting courses and information leaflets. The website offers lots of advice, real-life stories and relevant news as well as a helpful A-Z of related topics.

http://www.familylives.org.uk/
Helpline: 0800 800 2222 (9am – 9pm, Monday to Friday;10am – 3pm Saturday and Sunday)

 

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